goatgurl
Almost Self-Reliant
i so know how you feel, exhubby of 17 years came in, ate lunch, cleared his throat and said "i want a divorce". I'm like what?? i thought i could trust him with my life but not so much i guess. he left me for another woman who was more fun, yep fun. i raised our then 13 year old daughter by my self while he had fun. all i can tell you is this too shall pass and life will go on. how long will it hurt? i don't know but you will function day by day until one day you realize you will be ok. I'm like you in that i thought we would grow old together, sit on the front porch and watch the world go by. now I've moved on, have a place all my own and live the life i want to live. do i miss my 'happily ever after', yes i do but i am also content with life now. i pray Gods peace for you. and please, please protect your self legally and financially. i know it feels to soon to get an attorney and you may feel that she wouldn't hurt you or take advantage of you but divorce is never pretty and only you can protect you. he wouldn't get counseling either, said if anyone had a problem it was me and if i wanted counseling i could get it. so i did and it helped me get thru the ordeal. i highly recommend it.
So sorry. You have gotten good advice from the others. It sucks. No matter who's right, who's wrong, everybody loses and it just sucks. You will live through this and go on to having a good life, maybe even better. 
