Holidays and Relatives

[Bailey'sMom]

I dislike holidays and relatives equally.

 

[ORChick]

I'm with Farmerchick - I like my family, and they appear to like me - we all get along great, including in-laws. Unfortunately none of them will be here for Thanksgiving - my brothers are all in California or Rhode Island, and DH's siblings are all in Europe. My brothers are the only people left who have a common early history with me; I am so glad that we all get along. We don't see each other often, but all have a good time when we do.
I am sincerely sorry for those of you who don't have families that you can get along with, and hope that there are others in your lives to fill that gap.

 

[me&thegals]

On my dad's side, there is plenty of drug abuse, alcoholism and other abuse. Seriously dysfunctional. We don't see them often, but I even get something out of that: SERIOUS appreciation for the loving, functional, successful man my dad grew into despite his upbringing. Besides, the stories are like soap operas, only true. Course, it's incredibly depressing when considered fully.

 

[abifae]

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[freemotion]

Well, my folks ARE magical and always right.... Although they went through a brief dumb period when I was in my late teens and early twenties....

 

[abifae]

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[Henrietta23]

Hmmm, I thought my mom could do no wrong until I was about 14. Then she could do no right. Now she's just human. My dad, no that's another story.... I don't think I ever thought of him as infallible, except when I was very young. He had moments back then, but he started driving me bonkers when I was 8 or so and that's never changed.

 

[Beekissed]

I made my own family! We left our home town like scalded dogs to establish in a new land...and couldn't be happier!

My boys and I are now the only real family I have except for a few stray sisters here and there who are civil, polite and one, at least, that would actually pour water on me if I were on fire. And The Bat, of course.

So, that makes 5-6 people in this world who might shed a tear if I die....and that's enough. More than enough....

....much better than 8 sibs and their extended brood that could care less if I fell into a vat of acid....actually, some would gladly buy the acid and shove me into it.

 

[Mackay]

Okay, so slightly related question: How old were you when you realized your parents were just folk like anyone else, and not anything magical or always right or whatever kids are supposed to think?

This is an important survey hahaha. Psychology and stuffs. >.>

at age 8 when My dad stopped being magical when I saw him beat my brother.

at 13 when My mom, when she denied that it ever happened.

at 18 My sister in law when she castrated my brother then left him because he couldn't have kids

and at 21 when My brother, shortly after, he treid to seduce me/ That was the last staw for him. In 37 years I've only seen him 4 times. the last at my mothers funeral, and I think that is the last.

at age 16 my uncle when he tried to molest me at 16 and went for a repeat at 32.. each time I put him in his place.

at 19 when My sister in law when, she could not let anyone have a word in edgewise

at age 9, my grandmother when all she would do is complain to a 9 year old girl about how depressed she way


So at 19 I said F--- you all and I went and made my own very sane and responsible family and a lot of friends who never treated me so poorly or those around them, who suffer from no significant delusions and god help anyone one of them if they ever try to lay a trip on me...

meanwhile I love them my kids and DG dearly and we will all be together this thanks giving.

 

[Up-the-Creek]

Okay, so slightly related question: How old were you when you realized your parents were just folk like anyone else, and not anything magical or always right or whatever kids are supposed to think?

This is an important survey hahaha. Psychology and stuffs. >.>

Sad to say, I was a grown woman, married with children. I believe becoming a parent is what opened my eyes to my parents actually being human. I still get "sad" about it, because I feel like I lost my "real" parents along the way.

As far as relatives go,.....well put it this way,..I made my own family also. I got tired of all the drama.