LADIES ONLY please -personal matter

[Wildsky]

Well, there's a reason why I go to women doctors for women things.

The worst OBGYN I ever went to was a woman - a real B...

That said, my midwife was amazing!

 

[annmarie]

Considering how horribly awkward those appointments are, it's really important to feel comfortable with your OBGYN. Since we weren't there when it happened it's hard to say what was intended, but from what you said, it sounds to me like his feeble attempt at a joke when humor was not what you were looking for. Since your appointment is next week, I would do your best to go with an open mind, knowing that if he still seems like the jerk you're suspecting he is, you'll never have to see him again, but try not to get too uptight about it, or else it will only make your horribly uncomfortable appointment even more horribly uncomfortable! Try to give him the benefit of the doubt, just this once. We're all guilty of making stupid comments at inappropriate times. (as for the prescription thing, like someone said earlier, it's the law that he has to prescribe them, and I think it's standard practice that you have to have an annual exam before they can prescribe - that was my experience anyway)

 

[poppycat]

If you feel uncomfortable with your doctor then it's probably time to find a new one. Especially if you are dreading your appointment based on his commentary at the last appointment. I totally understand that you have to keep this appointment to keep your prescriptions current.

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with telling a doctor that you find something they said offensive. It's weird how doctors AND patients easily forget who's working for whom.

My pediatrician once referred my DD to a specialist who was HORRIBLE! I told the specialist that I was less than pleased and then I called the pediatrician. He thanked me profusely for giving him useful feedback and said he'd look for other options for his patients in the future.

All that said, figure out a way to get that breast exam and mammogram ASAP. It's icky I know but you'll feel so much better after it's done.

 

[sweetcorn]

As a nurse , I'd say you complaining of tenderness to him , should have led to him asking you questions , not making jokes. What part of your cycle are you in, do u have this pain normally every month , etc. Sounds very unprofessional to me.

You should be comfortable with your healthcare provider , if you aren't , I'd find a different one.

I've never seen a doc give prescription birth control without an exam first and I think it would be irresponsible to do so, as some female cancers can be worsened by the hormones. They want to screen you first for cervical , breast and uterine cancer before they give you hormones . Also these pills increase your risk factor for different medical problems so a yearly exam is prudent, as much as I know we all hate them , ugh !

 

[Beekissed]

Thank you Wild. I just don't like the guy much. His tone of voice was so snippy. I do need to find a new doc!

I know what you are getting at...almost like a snide laugh, as if you were being a baby by saying his breast exam was uncomfortable. Either he thought you were a whine bag or he thought you were criticizing his technique...either way it was a rude comment.

In my experience..and its quite vast...there are two kinds of men who become OB/GYNs...those who love women and those who despise them. Unfortunately, I've witnessed more of the latter than the former. I am now a firm believer, if you don't have the equipment, you will never be qualified to work on it to that extent, no matter how many times you handle it!