Ldychef2k: Notes from a Wannabe - Ldychef2k fesses up.

[Ldychef2k]

Getting ready for my bread and cheese class, so no time to be wordy. I wish could influence the DA, but I have no real connection anymore. When the dad comes up for trial, I do have three or four cases of violence toward me and also what I have witnessed. My daughter will be supporting and encouraging the mom as best she can.

I know that more information is coming in on yesterday's events, but I haven't had time to talk to DD about it.

Thanks for your interest and support.

Gotta run.

 

[cjparker]

Find out if the kids have a Guardian Ad Litum (sp) or an attorney of their own. If not, call every woman's organization in your area and ask if any lawyers do pro bono work on behalf of children. If that doesn't work, call your local hotline and ask for referrals to child abuse agencies. Tell anyone who will listen what has happened to those children and their moms, and to you and your daughter. Someone with pull at court will turn up. Get ALL of the stories of abuse into the court record if there is any way at all. That man is a sick ba*tard and needs to be removed from society.

I know this is akin to impossible, but try not to judge that crazy mom too harshly. She is a victim of her own mental illness as much as she is a victim of that evil man.

I am amazed that you can come here and tell this horrifying story. I think I would be gibbering under the bed with all of that going on. You are a hero!

 

[Wifezilla]

I should also mention that as a result of lifelong abuse the child has dissociative personality disorder: He has three separate identities in what is erroneously called "split personality". He remembers what happened tonight, but he has no emotion about it at all. One of the other personalities keeps the emotions safe.

Abuse will do that. He needs a good therapist. VERY good. Not just someone who will try to jam integration down his throat. He may integrate, he may not. First he needs time to heal.

 

[murphysranch]

That story makes me sick. Sick for the innocent children who will have life long issues (some mild, some not so...).

 

[Ldychef2k]

Thank you all for your incredible support.

We heard today that he was released overnight due to overcrowding at the jail. He has spoken to an attorney, and in order to plead down to a misdemeanor and avoid six years in prison, he is legally relinquishing his parental rights to all five children, is leaving the area next Wednesday and will never return, unless for Court.

The boy is jubilant. He feels like a hero for standing up to his abuser and getting him out of all our lives.

Barring any change of heart, we expect this to happen. Getting this man out of these children's lives is paramount. I think it will happen. We have been hoping and praying for ten years.

Now my son-in-law can adopt the girls, which was the goal ever since he and daughter got married four years ago.

 

[Henrietta23]

What horror!

 

[Ldychef2k]

Yeah. It has been. I hope it will be over now for good. The kids have been through hell, and that is not an exaggeration. The boy has been in therapy since he was five.

 

[noobiechickenlady]

What a sick and disturbed man. The boy should be pleased, he is helping break the cycle of abuse for all the children, not just himself.

Sending up words for all involved.

 

[cjparker]

I hope all goes as planned but I wonder if a person as deranged and controlling as that will simply walk away. Giving up his parental rights will certainly help if anything happens in the future.

That boy IS a hero, and he should hear that a lot. He not only secured a safer future for himself, but also for his siblings and the moms.

It is hard to believe that fiends like that walk around in our society. I'm glad that boy had it in him to get away.

 

[Ldychef2k]

We believe that he has spoken with an attorney and was advised to abandon his rights to avoid the lengthier prison term. He may have a permanent restraining order as well. The other two moms are backing down as usual, but my daughter is at the courthouse right now getting a restraining order and will be visiting her atty later today to give him the information and documentation of the arrest so that they can immediately file for cessation of all visitation and to begin the process of step parent adoption.

The other women are extremely weak people, and have been controlled by this man for years. What happens to them and their kids, they have brought on themselves by refusing to stand up and protect the children.