Lori, a mans love language is most often sex...and they do take it personally when their wives don't respond to them.
I am not huge on the idea of sex anymore either, and just as my levels dropped, hubby's kicked in.
If you know what is good for your marriage you will just give in three times a week and even pretend to enjoy it if you have to.
...and I have to say by the way...it IS all about your husband...you are a stay at home mom aren't you?
Not that I am not sympathetic, believe me I am...I could go weeks or months without sex at this stage of the game...LOVE when my period comes cause I have a week off that I know I can sleep thru the night without being woken and ridden so to speak...

But I adore my husband, and the 15 minutes three days a week that I spend making sure he is pleased, isn't really that big of an investment considering all he does for me.
Maybe I missed something, and maybe your husband did something that is really interfering with your ability to love him right now ( I didn't go back that far) But if not, then just love him the way he feels loved. It really does make life alot easier