now what? :(

[MsPony]

Nope, I was supposed to sign a release form from his owner (has lots of money, top racehorses and corporations) but she never gave it to me. So I have not only been paying board, but farrier, vet, supps/grain, supplies and training. Of course I pay in cash. I don't think his owner even knows what is going on, I have excercised/taken care of his horses and briefly boarded with him for years. I just saw him the other day.

She did mention I could buy him, but wed have to majorly work out on a price for a horse that I've spent thousands on and is only servicably sound.

This, THIS, is why I no longer trust anyone anymore.

 

[freemotion]

You might contact the actual owner and explain the situation. He may think that the horse is yours. Who does he think has been paying board, vet, farrier, etc, all this time? If he does think he gave the horse to you, he will likely put it in writing now. Here's hopin'.....

This, THIS, is why I no longer trust anyone anymore.

Now hold on a minute..... There are plenty of trustworthy people out there. I happen to know a few....I am one, as is my dh, and our close friends. You just learned a very important lesson about contracts and business. Bypass her and go straight to the owner....not on her property, if possible, where she can interfere. See if you can meet him for coffee at a local Dunkin' Donuts or something. And pay. Tell him the situation as you know it, but don't say anything bad about her. Just the facts, ma'am, just the facts!

You just may end up with the horse...in writing.

 

[FarmerDenise]

Something sounds incredibly fishy here. I agree with Free.
Someone is taking you for a ride, and you have every right to fight it!!! Don't roll over and play dead. And you really don't need to be friends with this BO, believe me, she is NOT your friend!!!! Anyone who takes advantage of a young person like you deserves to be shot, JMO

 

[Shiloh Acres]

Just want to say -- sorry to hear about this situation. Don't let it ruin everyone for you though. There ARE plenty of trustworthy folks out there, even though there are unfortunately plenty who will disappoint you too.

I'd agree to talk to the horse's owner. I hope it works out for you. And agreed, this person is not your friend. Reminds me of a working under contactor situation I had once with a "friend". Some people it's better for you to cut your ties with them and move on rather than let them burn you again or keep running over you.

I do hope a talk with the owner gets it all worked out. Can you take your fiance with you for moral support and to back up your story? If you need the support. I wish you all the best!

 

[MsPony]

Thanks everyone. My fiance has been kissing her butt, and she is talking about selling Swinger to him (fiance.) However in the meantime, she has stopped talking badly about him (fiance) to everyone and anyone, and attacking me. The kind of attack that no horse owner ever wants to go through

This is very W T H(eck) and very junior high. I want to punch her in the face, just a big BLAM. However, the BO of the barn I was supposed to move to Oct 1 emailed me back, briefly as she is in Europe, and wants to see me when she gets back, it was a rather encouraging email.

I have to remind myself, its all going to work out in the end. At least Swinger will be ours, and I can get him (and myself) out in the end. Because I dont want to go to the barn, and thats horrible because my baby is there.

 

[Shiloh Acres]

I don't like finding a person like that. I have known some.

Sigh.

The good thing is that, sooner or later, most people will upset her in some way. Then she will talk about THEM. And they will realize what sort of person she is and that it has no credibility. Others will hear how much she bad-mouths people and be wise enough to know the problem is her herself, rather than whoever she's currently talking about. Especially with her quick about-faces in badmouthing your fiance, who is apparently now "the good one" while you have been moved to the hotseat.

I understand your frustration though. I certainly do. Spoken lies can cause a lot of hurt and damage. The only good thing is that it sounds like she is the type to give herself a reputation rather quickly. I doubt you are the only people she has treated so badly.

I hope all is well and you have Swinger and him out of there soon.