Thank you to everyone, for the input on the school and the mom's who replied on the infant tub
Our former Help Me Grow Service coordinator, M, just stopped in. She no longer works for HMG, and we're no longer participating in the program, but she has remained a friend (will tell reason for her visit in a minute). We discussed Baby Boy's behavior and his age - he JUST turned 3 in July, so he's not been 3 that long. She said it sounds to her, too, like he's just not ready. She said he might need to wait until he's 4 to be ready, and she really thinks 1 year of pre-school/headstart is enough.
Also spoke with another friend who pointed out that we can read daily with Baby boy (and I have been) and engage him in different learning toys at home, we can teach him his ABC's and 123's, and that can be done while I'm BF'ing the baby! I'm thinking that is probably a smart idea, because if I'm feeding the baby, but still focusing some attention on Baby Boy by teaching him to sing his ABC's, then he won't feel left out or that the baby is taking all of my attention.
I've already let him get playdoh, and he loves that. We've been discussing getting him one of the playdoh activity packs that has cookie cutters and a rolling pin in it. I think we saw them for $10. The older kids would enjoy playing with playdoh, too.
We've already set up a bookshelf/reading/coloring area for all of the kids to use - it's in the first room addition, and the kids are able to access the books and it's in an area easily supervised from the livingroom by us.
Anyway, my freebie brag for a moment - M stopped by because she wanted to know if I had a baby swing. I said No, but I wasn't too worried about it at this point because I do have a bouncer. She replies, "Well, I have a swing for you, just wanted to know if you had one already first or not.
Here's the kicker
it's a fisher price papasan baby swing! the My Little Lamb one! I nearly fell over! I asked how much would it cost me, and she said, "Nothing! It's free!"
The papasan swings are NOT CHEAP imo - and even the ones we've looked at used have been $50 or more, so to be GIVEN one just wow wow wow! I just feel so blessed!! And Baby Girl is being so spoiled!!!
on the free swing ! I didn't use the baby bath when mine were babies - I had a sponge that the baby laid on in the bathtub so I could run some water in the tub without him being down in it. I don't know what those are called though 
