Quail_Antwerp: Words from the Barnyard...

[Quail_Antwerp]

We asked at church once, when we were still building the new bedroom on back in June - and no one volunteered to help. I won't ask there again. We feel like it made us look foolish.

 

[miss_thenorth]

Wow, sorry. WE have a type of barter program going on where you join a mailing list, and post what you need done. It is expected that you contribute to something you are capapble of withing the next several months. One guy had a barn built this way.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

Wow, sorry. WE have a type of barter program going on where you join a mailing list, and post what you need done. It is expected that you contribute to something you are capapble of withing the next several months. One guy had a barn built this way.

That's a great idea! and I was kind of thinking of something a long those lines, too, but wasn't sure how it'd go over.

The long and the short of it is, even if we don't get the help we will do it ourselves, just be stressed until it's done.

It's like we're the living book of the Little Red Hen. We'll do the work, and then my mom or another family member will want to share in it once it's completed. Or say things like, "I should get you out to my place to do that for me." Um, no, doesn't work that way.

 

[moolie]

I'm sorry, but what the hell kind of church is that? At my church there would be people lined up to help a family with a pregnant wife and injured husband get ready for winter, church members or total strangers. And I live in a city of over a million people, I always thought that small towns (sorry if I'm assuming, but you don't list where you live under your avatar) were more close-knit.

I wish we were closer, we'd get that laundry list of chores out of the way for you in no time

Hope that baby makes her appearance soon

 

[Britesea]

I agree with you Moolie. I'm surprised the pastor didn't light into them for not helping. With the coming hard times, EVERYONE is gonna need help; we can no longer afford the luxury of being alone.

 

[miss_thenorth]

I'm sorry, but what the hell kind of church is that? At my church there would be people lined up to help a family with a pregnant wife and injured husband get ready for winter, church members or total strangers. And I live in a city of over a million people, I always thought that small towns (sorry if I'm assuming, but you don't list where you live under your avatar) were more close-knit.

I wish we were closer, we'd get that laundry list of chores out of the way for you in no time

Hope that baby makes her appearance soon

I totally agree.

 

[SSDreamin]

Wow, I agree with Moolie too - what kind of congregation is it that doesn't volunteer to help? I wouldn't feel foolish. I might start shopping for a better church though!

Wish we lived closer too - I make a pretty good laborer, especially when a food reward is involved!

 

[moolie]

I'm sorry if I wrote harshly just there because I shouldn't judge and don't know anything about the people at your church--maybe they are all elderly and can't help. But your situation just makes me feel helpless because I personally can't help due to distance--and it makes me just frankly want to smack people at your church.

When I count the times in my life when I was in need, and that need was miraculously met, I lose count. I have been so blessed, and know it.

I pray for you that good people will come into your life and do the same for you and your family.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

I don't think that it's a bad church, the pastor wouldn't have been able to help because he had shoulder surgery and on his hand, so he couldn't really help, but we did have his blessing to announce in church that we were looking for help.

It's also a small church, and there aren't many members, so not sure how many there would have been physically capable of helping. Which is a big part of why we felt foolish. I think there's only two or three families are age? Average attendence is like 45 members, counting kids, I think, and that might be on the high side.

So I'm not really upset that no one offered, was disappointed yes, but won't ask again.

My parents have joined a new church, not far from us I don't think, but it's only a year old and the congregation is small but they are all about outreach and helping the community - and it sounds like something I could really get into. The men of the church are very active about outreach, etc. They have several meetings a week for prayer, building the churchs bathrooms together, and are now working on a getting a van because they recieved word that there are children wanting to attend services but don't have transportation.

Anyhoo...I kind of borrowed your idea, missthe_north, and posted on my familys FB forum asking if anyone would be willing to come out and spend a day helping with JUST the yard work for now - figured I'd better not toss it all out there at once lol. I offered to supply food, drinks, and snacks and our time to help them with anything in return that they need done. My mom replied to it already and said, "they need a lot more than yard work done!" and she rambled off a list...I hope it doesn't scare anyone off!

Mom's coming over this evening, too. She's staying the night to get the kiddos off to school for us in the morning because E and I have a super important meeting tomorrow in WVA.

I appreciate all the kind thoughts, and offers of wishful help! It'll get done, just seems a bit much for NOW given everything we have going on. Normally wouldn't be too worried, I think just the idea that I'll be laid up with a c-section has me nervous about it getting done.

 

[miss_thenorth]

Great!! I hope you get some takers.