I give it to my chickens, but you can check to see if the bones are soft enough by using a potato masher on it.
I would give it raw, no problem, to a big dog. My little dogs don't chew neck bones and I had one get a bit stuck once. Should be fine for big dogs. I feed my pooches raw chicken wings.
I usually refer to you all as my friends on the "farm" forum. Or "garden forum" depending on who I am talking with. Some people don't get the SS thing.