homestead- I hear you there. DH wanted to 'take care of him' years ago, but DD 'loved' him. As much as I have wanted things like that for certain people that deserve it, I am a firm believer in karma. I try very hard to keep my karma clean, sometimes it is very hard. Especially when you do all the right things and get the shaft and struggle through life at every turn and these jerks that care about nothing or nobody but themselves, break the law daily, are lazy and just want a free ride. We all know that they deserve to have all of us decent folk take care of them, they were born weren't they? And they get all the things they want.
DH and I have had to spend quite a bit of money on lawyers over the years to do everything right when dealing with losers. We like to cover our butts leagally so it doesn't come back to bite us later.
Usually after a long battle and lots of stress and headaches, we get what we want. With our oldest grandaughter that we have guardianship of, our lawyer said that even if either of her parents become Jesus, they wouldn't be able to get her back! That's how I like things, cut and dried and with the courts and the law backing you up.
Farmer-You can be sure that we will keep track of everything.
Morel- What a WONDERFUL idea!!! I will talk to DD today when she calls. We all have known that the only reason he wants the kids is for money from DD and also the taxpayers so he doesn't have to work. While she was in basic training and special training, they were still together for part of the time. She was sending him her WHOLE check. Every month he was getting overdrawn and she was getting notices for unpaid bills! When they split up, she was sending him $700.00 a month to take care of the kids and make sure they had food and a roof over their heads. He called her superiors and told them that she hadn't sent him one penny the whole time she had been gone! She had all the proof of bank deposits and overdrafts to prove that she had. Still they made her send him$1,200.00 a month from then on!!!
If you can sit on your arse and rack in money like that while your girlfriend takes care of your kids, hey, why not! He sold all the new furniture she had bought, sold the kids toys, destroyed her keepsakes and the family cradle, confiscated her brand new computer that she bought for school. When she picked the kids up, they had no toys, her son had the clothes on his back and her sent the girls clothes but they were their baby clothes that they didn't even fit in anymore!! He hadn't even tried to potty train the girls. She had to re-buy furniture, clothes, computers, toys.
I don't know what kinds of things are available where he lives, I guess it's a small town, near a little bit bigger town. I know nothing about OR. Maybe I'll check online after Thanksgiving. I am not going to have any free time until then.
Thanks for the support, prayers and ideas; they help bunches
Monica
His gf at the time(now his wife) had family in Mexico & that was where they were going. Ds told me the name of the town. So we looked it up on a map & my db researched & found out more info from some of his co-workers who had realitives in Mexico so we were preparred in case he did it. We even had a PI who was a family friend waiting to go after him if need be.
