- Jul 12, 2008
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- Hanson, MA Zone 6a
+1, ETR, you've summed it up nicely. Just because older people and people who plan on not having any children get married (decidedly the minority in society) doesn't take away from the main reason marriage was established.enjoy the ride said:The main point was of course that marriage gave some protection to women and children- made a strong unit of diverse talents and abilities in order that a safe haven is made as much as possible. Brought two extended families together to insure the continuation of their genes. Continuation of the kingdom, farm , even business. And yes, women were treated like livestock a lot of the time (not always.) Which is one reason for marriage in those times.
Even gay men usually had wives and made children inside a marriage to a woman- and did whatever they wanted outside of it privately. The point was to have an heir, to not let the line die out, to provide family members to get through rough times and to get society to recognize this child's rights.
Love and marriage only became really expected with the Victorians- thanks to Queen V and Prince Albert.
For a lot of women, being barren was cause for divorce - if the man was infertile, it was still her problem (Henry VIII.) And old people didn't usually live long enough to get remarried- and it was frowned on as silly by society and scandalous by her potential heirs (David Copperfield.)
Take the M word out of it. Go for civil unions. Get all the legality of marriage without trying to wrap it in the religious ceremony, which is what marriage comes from - this is what has so many people enraged. There is no religion that condones homosexuality - now I'm not saying that's right, but it's true. So stop trying to change the very foundation of society (marriage equals one man and one woman) and go for what will work, a union contract between two people. Any two people. That will be doable. Keeping up this fight against the reality of what marriage is will just drag on and on and will never get them what they ultimately want, which are the rights and priviledges a marriage license grants.