Well, it's done.
I feel the same way about debt, but I also know that we have been sucked into circumstances beyond our control with the state of this economy and real estate market. So we are making the best of it.
We refied, and as far as costing us more money, it is not much. We are in an unusual situation- our taxes + insurance are only $40/mo less than our mortgage (principle + interest). We now have a biweekly mortgage at a lower interest rate, so it's going to cost a couple thousand dollars more over the life of the loan (30 years), plus the closing costs. So over 30 years, it will cost us an extra $6000.
But if we did not refi, then we could not take advantage of the amazing deals that are out there right now. When we moved here in '05, the area that we fell in love with was Big Money. It was a fantasy. Now, prices have dropped like a stone. I've been looking at an index, and in non-adjusted dollars, prices have not been this low in said area since '88-'89.
This is our dream, and now we can afford it since our payments here are so low.
I don't think we'll have a problem finding renters. Worst case scenario, we have to carry this house for four more years until DSS goes to college, which we can afford to do since we've refied. (He gets free tuition through DH, but not housing.) We will rent it to him at cost, which is a long sight better than paying the $1000/mo that it costs to live on campus. We have three kids, so $1000/mo x 8 months x 4 years x 3 kids is $96,000, which would pay for this house three times over. It seems silly to waste money on that when we could instead end up with a piece of real estate at the end of their college years. The little guy is 2, so when he graduates in 20 years, hopefully this house is A) paid off, and B) the market has rebounded some.
This is more of a risk, but I really feel like we have made the best possible decision given our circumstances. Which, to be honest, are good, but very unusual, so typical financial advice doesn't really apply to us. It's taken me a couple years to figure that out, but now that I have, our financial decisions have started to make a lot more sense.