Abifae - Ciao Babies!

[Henrietta23]

I was in the handbell choir at church when I was 14 when the director told me I was being an a$$hole for pointing out everyone else's errors. Years later I realized it was a habit I had in other areas as well.
I will spend some time this summer watching Bones on Netflix. I'm debating whether to watch tonight....

 

[kcsunshine]

I'm just cruising through your journal tonight Abi.... First, let me say - I love crayons....I love office supplies....and, I love hardware stores. Not those big box stores, but the little old-timey hardware stores where you could buy nails by the pound out of bins.

I always wanted to go buy my school supplies the day after school ended for the year.

Just keep talking everyone, don't mind me tiptoeing through.....

 

[abifae]

Jamie... I do have to wonder what they're so scared of. >.>

Hen, you totally have to! LOL. They even over exaggerate expressions and then explain them.

KC!! I worked in a smaller hardware store that had nails in bins like that. It was great.

 

[FarmerJamie]

Jamie... I do have to wonder what they're so scared of. >.>

Hen, you totally have to! LOL. They even over exaggerate expressions and then explain them.

KC!! I worked in a smaller hardware store that had nails in bins like that. It was great.

Stupid stuff that doesn't make any logic sense. Person 1 with Objective A that is mutually exclusive to Person 2 with Objective B. The top honchos like it because "it lets the good ideas prevail", but each person also gets measured on how well they support the other person. I am not kidding. I was in a project meeting at a crucial technical junction where it was discovered through happenstance that two stakeholders had two opposite, non-co-existing goals for the project. I mumbled "Kobyashi Maru time" in a voice I thought was more quiet than it was. That earned me an hour with the boss on how to be more of a team player - not getting any advice on how to solve the loggerhead.

 

[abifae]

That is really sad.

I'm extremely good at conflict resolution. Amusingly enough. I'm really good at stepping outside of the situation, even if I'm in it, and setting emotions aside.

I can also start with the premise "everyone is right". Once you figure out how everyone is right, you can figure out what they think needs to happen

 

[FarmerJamie]

Don't get me wrong, most of the time, things are good. My core project team right now is pretty cool and the sponsors are great. I'm better as a facilitator, rather than one of the parties.

A couple of projects ago, by the end of a painful discussion, the PITA I was working with, not only contradicted himself, but began arguing for my position. I think I still have the bruise on the underside of my chin from it hitting the table.

My problem is with people like that, once I've seen the behavior, I have no trust in their judgement, in particular when they are higher in the foodchain. I need to get better at being more accepting.

 

[Henrietta23]

Hate conflict, hate hate hate it. Will change the channel to avoid conflict on a stupid sitcom. Don't watch them much anymore anyway. Hate awkward situations whether they involve me or not.

 

[Farmfresh]

Hate conflict, hate hate hate it.

Meanwhile ... I often get my kicks with conflict situations. That is why I like working with behavior disordered children so much. I enjoy the challenge of facing a conflict and then maneuvering around with it until I have the problem mastered. Kind of like one of your puzzles, Abi.

I was raised by several people that ... well let's just say they had issues. Conflict was ever present and ongoing for me as a child. I guess it just kind of feels normal for me and those coping mechanisms that got perfected by being the child of a bi-polar stand me in good stead quite often these days.

 

[Boyd]

That is really sad.

I'm extremely good at conflict resolution. Amusingly enough. I'm really good at stepping outside of the situation, even if I'm in it, and setting emotions aside.

I can also start with the premise "everyone is right". Once you figure out how everyone is right, you can figure out what they think needs to happen

I start out with I am right, and everybody else sucks lemons... And things seem to go bad from there :/

 

[Boyd]

PS, been reading your blog from "schizautism" and thinks we have a bit in common. Wish you would update.