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Anyone else 'going at it alone'?

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by canesisters, Feb 15, 2019.

  1. Feb 16, 2019
    Chic Rustler

    Chic Rustler Super Self-Sufficient

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    Not me, wife and 4 kids. But on the up side, you have less mouths to feed so you dont need as much garden, livestock, etc.
     
  2. Feb 18, 2019
    canesisters

    canesisters Lovin' The Homestead

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    I guess yall are right. Just feeling a little sorry for myself after what seems like weeks of working by flashlight in the rain.
    It won't be so bad once the days get a little bit longer.
     
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  3. Feb 18, 2019
    NH Homesteader

    NH Homesteader Super Self-Sufficient

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    I understand how you feel though, this time of year is hard. Spring brings a change of heart many years. I for one am anxious for warmer and brighter days.
     
  4. Feb 18, 2019
    wyoDreamer

    wyoDreamer Almost Self-Reliant

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    so many times I wish I could "go it alone" just so I could get something done "my way" instead of compromising what I want with what DH thinks need to be done. Many things would be very different and easier without his input - but I do appreciate the fact that he is willing to help. He is stronger than I am, so that is a plus.
     
  5. Feb 18, 2019
    Beekissed

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    I agree with this. Every time I start to feel cheated because I have to do everything alone...and poorly, I might add, as I'm no good at construction...I always remind myself of how many women have to ask permission to do this or that on the land, have to wait upon the time or will of a man in order to proceed on such things, etc.

    Freedom to do what one wants, when one wants to do it, however one wants to do it is a great trade off. No one criticizing technique or design, no one expressing doubts if something will work or not, etc. To me, that's priceless.

    Many is the time over the years I've lamented not having a husband, a working partner to help me in my life....but now I just thank God my prayers were not answered in the way I had wanted. I've learned a lot, I've learned that if I want something done I don't wait around for someone else to do it or help me do it, and I've learned the sweet value of being alone, working alone and enjoying the fruits of my labor alone.
     
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  6. Feb 19, 2019
    Mini Horses

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    My tractor is named "Arnie" … after Arnold S...the terminator. :clap

    "Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. " :love

    And I agree with the rest of it, too. Other than an occasional urge to express my immediate feelings to another, I'm really OK alone for many of the reasons you mention. My late DH was perfect for me and always supportive. Won't be another, they'd never measure up.:idunno
     
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  7. Feb 19, 2019
    baymule

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    Y'all that are alone, look at it this way...…. Would you REALLY want to house break and train another spouse? :gig
     
  8. Feb 19, 2019
    Beekissed

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    Not for all the money in the world. When I was young I would tolerate fools and love covered many sins, but now that I'm old my tolerance level is zero and even love wouldn't blind me any longer.
     
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    Rammy

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    Dont miss it at all.
     
  10. Feb 19, 2019
    canesisters

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    LOL. I'm afraid that I'm way too 'set in my ways' to be tolerated by a new man.
    But some days I think it would be SO nice to be able to call someone and say "Hey, can you start dinner and feed the dogs? I'm still waiting on Mr. Farmer to come load a round bale and by the time I get home and get it in the field it's going to be 8:30 or later." Or to have someone to hold the other end of a board, or point a light, or.... :\
     
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