Losing weight.....exercise...preferably something aerobic like walking. Foods would anything that is a natural diuretic...like cucumbers, celery, ..etc. Google for all of those. Just getting to the new place should help tremendously! We have no bills...well, loans, mortgages, etc....just the electric and internet,..and DH cell plans. Gas for vehicles and food. That has relieved so much stress for him. I have had no debt since 2002. Just the monthly utilities.
I know I am not much help..we are all getting older. I reach 50 in March.

Where did the time go?

I have developed my own health issues due to being a tad overweight...short,fat, white chick here. Peri-menopausal..and all the fun stuff. DH is 55....will be 56 in Sept.
Anyway...DH has to take the B/P meds himself. Hypertension is hereditary in his family. So, we deal with it anyway. I do know your pain though about taking meds. I have only ever took aspirin till I was 40. Then, my past 10 yrs have been making it necessary I take ibuprofen and aleve. Then, a week and a half ago, I get a kidney stone. Not good. I have trouble swallowing pills...and just about choke every time. I got 4 Rx with this ER trip. So, I am changing some things in my diet etc. Pushing fluid intake, taking 2 TB olive oil per day, not eating like DH...cutting way back on processed meats etc. I had tried to accomodate him, and eat like he does. He has severe allergies and can't eat certain things. Well, that came back and bit me in the but I think.
Anyhoo...hypertension seems to be just part of growing older. Makes it more of a challenge to lose weight etc. Depending on why you have it.....will determine if you can control it by yourself with lifestyle changes..or if you still have to take meds. You can try, is all I would say. And, run it by your Dr first. Your Dr should tell you why you are having hypertension......and if you can control it yourself.
Oh yeah...what marianne said. Monitor your B/P at home. Write it down and keep a log. Date/time/bp & P/weight. Keep it in your computer, and if you need to go to Dr, print it up and take to them.