Holidays and Relatives

[Beekissed]

Okay, so slightly related question: How old were you when you realized your parents were just folk like anyone else, and not anything magical or always right or whatever kids are supposed to think?

This is an important survey hahaha. Psychology and stuffs. >.>

I think I was about 8 years old when I realized all that.

 

[abifae]

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[Blackbird]

I never had that for my dad and a few choice others, for as far back as I can remember. My mom and one sister however.. Maybe when I was about 10. But I still think they are great, in other ways. And I never went through the whole 'teenager, know it all, everyone is stupid' stage, thank golly.

Mackay, I do declare, we MUST be distant relatives!

 

[Up-the-Creek]

I grew up in a pretty normal situation, pretty normal parents (I thought), but I have some serious trust issues and I have no social skills what so ever. Since I have grown older I see now it could be due to circumstances of my childhood and of course due to being just me I guess.

 

[journey11]

So that still goes and family is this magic word that means "you are not a stranger I must now kill or otherwise incapacitate".

Ahhh, whew...now that I can breathe again...

I totally feel your frustration. I suppose most people have "relatives" they are dreading to see over the holidays. I was just crying on my husband's shoulder today because of my ill-begotten kin and the fact that Thursday is drawing near.

I'm just trying to prepare myself to expect the worst and if they behave better then I'll be pleasantly surprised.

I have vowed to myself two things though--this time I will be sure to deal a quick retort (not break bad and cause a scene, but just a little sumthin' to make her draw back and scratch her head for a minute while she contemplates what I really meant by that). And second--I flat out refuse to drive 3 hours down there and put $80 toward gasoline and tolls just so I can be abused. I'm with you...if they get to see me it will be their privilege and honor and only on my own terms.

Good luck with yours and try to enjoy your meal despite the tasteless company!

 

[abifae]

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[me&thegals]

Mackay--I'm sorry for all your pain.

Abi--Maybe bonding issues are related to you needing everything on your terms. Not the best basis for any human relationship.

 

[abifae]

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[dragonlaurel]

Okay, so slightly related question: How old were you when you realized your parents were just folk like anyone else, and not anything magical or always right or whatever kids are supposed to think?

This is an important survey hahaha. Psychology and stuffs. >.>

My Mom and Dad split up when my sis and me were toddlers. She said some pretty bad ( probably true) things about him, so I don't remember ever thinking he was perfect. (He finished growing up later and turned into a great guy.)

9 or 10 When I lost faith in my Mom. She caught someone she trusted, that was a molester. They lied about what was going on, even though the situation was pretty obvious, and she fell for the bullsh-- lie. I decided she was a fool and that made the relationship with her get pretty toxic. Eventually I realized that otherwise smart people can have blind spots. She eventually "found out", but still is an ostrich about some of it.