How to meet single like-minded individuals?

[Beekissed]

This thread is hilarious.....and sadly tragic at the same time...but hilarious!

LadyHawke....loved the description of your date!

 

[Wifezilla]

I feel a need to hug my husband all of a sudden

 

[Ladyhawke1]

OMG! Ya all have made me so happy. I thought there was something wrong with ME. Like, wanting the house to myself, and talking to the cats and chickens. Well, it is just plain impolite not to answer them when they ask you something.

I think back to those dreamy days, and not having to pick up the underwear with permanently embedded racing stripes. Having to wait for the SO ( Significant Othertemped to put SOB) before making dinner to see what his mood is and what he wants.

Waiting to speak to him when he gets home, because he has to take his twenty-minute nap and survey his kingdom first and then I in an attentive and soft voice saying. Honey, can I make dinner now? And I trying to be the bestest wife ever by always making his favorite gourmet luncha baloney sandwich.day after day, and year after year, after year.

Having to endure those over stimulated relatives through their crises of closet drinking, suicide attempts, wonderful nieces that hated their mother, this same sister in law that hated her wonderful mother.and him all the time telling me what a wonder person I am to put up with it. I guess that is why when his former class mate/girlfriend that he had not seen for twenty-five years called; he chose to take that road.

Heck! Who wouldnt want to do that all over again!

 

[old fashioned]

that was a good last line Dragon

TELL friends you are looking. Sometimes that blind date setup might be the one...never know.

Yep, that worked for me 18+ years ago. A blind date that 2 weeks later I asked him to marry me and the fool said yes and a month later we were hitched! I'm sure he's regretted that a few times over the years as I have, but we've stuck it out and I wouldn't trade him for anything. (although some days I'd give him away )

 

[On Our own]

Before y'all give up comepletely on blind dates I am another success story!

My sister set us up and the first date was like a contest to see which one of us could find something about the other that we didn't like!

All those topics they tell you NOT to discuss we covered 'em all! We got tossed from the restaurant, then closed down a bar and still talked!

It's been 12 years, not all happy, but all loving, and we still can;t find enough time to talk!

My key to a good man? He HAS to be my intellectual equal, must be curious, must be interesting!

If I were OP I would be more worried about Mom's mental state than her matrimonial one!! There is a good book out there called celebrating single. Can't recall who wrote it. She doesn't need a man she needs to be happy were she is. If you are not happy with yourself no other person can make you so.

 

[bibliophile birds]

My key to a good man? He HAS to be my intellectual equal, must be curious, must be interesting!

yes, yes, and yes.

now, where are the men like that?

the only guys i know that fit those qualities also could never stand cleaning up chicken poop.

 

[hwillm1977]

Before y'all give up comepletely on blind dates I am another success story!

My parents are another blind date success story

Mom opened the door for their first date, her dog ran out and peed all over her date's shoes (now my dad)... he laughed... she decided at that moment she would marry him and 10 months later they were married.

Their 40 wedding anniversary will be February 11

 

[Ladyhawke1]

My key to a good man? He HAS to be my intellectual equal, must be curious, must be interesting!

yes, yes, and yes.

now, where are the men like that?

the only guys i know that fit those qualities also could never stand cleaning up chicken poop.

Yep! The dude has to like chickens and all living things in and outside of this house. Yes, he has to not mind cleaning or help cleaning chicken coops.

I am not sure if I have ever met a man that was my intellectual equal. I know that sounds arrogant. However, with just a few minutes.very few minutes of conversation you can tell.

Shucks. if truth be told, I just get bored really fast. I figured this happens because life is too short and I havent got time to fool around and pretend that I am something I am not.

 

[Ldychef2k]

I am so in agreement with you, Ladyhawke. I am not as clever or mentally acute as I used to be, but still I find that I am faced with feeling I have to dumb myself down so I am not perceived as intimidating. I refuse to do it. I didn't work hard, go to college, study independently to satisfy my thirst for knowledge just to keep my mouth shut because another person didn't do what I did.

I am a natural teacher, they tell me, so....I teach and share and illuminate. I don't know how to NOT do that. It's not an arrogance, it's an internal drive to know more and help others know more as well. I don't understand NOT longing to know more stuff. Anything less is complacency.....

 

[On Our own]

Ladyhawke, I truly sympathize. I spent years looking for my intellectual equal in high end jobs and cities. I found alot of overeducated idiots and no interesting people.

Education does not make you smart. Native intelligence and curiosity does. A curious person is never bored and never finished learning, and as such they are usually not boring.

Many of my friends questioned my spousal choice based on exterior status issues and I admit I might once have passed him over too. But, I am SO glad I grew up.