miss_thenorth said:
The only health complaint i have right now is sinus problems. After being on many different meds for over 20 years, the list kept growing. Now I am med free,and feeling great.
Try using a neti pot with saline. That might just fix your only health problem. There are no side effects, no allergy problems and the science of it is good.
And yes, I did read this entire string. Apparently, some of you seem to better understand and be more sensitive to the husband than a few of your companions here. I didn't see anything from any man on how men feel. I did see a lot of women stating that they know how men feel...hence the source of conflict.
Most of the issue in this entire string was LoriH's problem and her request for help and support. In many cases that is what is happening. Many here have offered her some dietary advice based on their own results.
Lori is frustrated because all her tests were "within normal limits" which only means that they corresponded to the variations noted in a significant number of people. If she gets the same results as the others have with the diet, then you have helped her. It will be her responsibility to do "the work". Along with that is the entire issue of marriage and sex which I will not approach in a "sea of estrogen dominated beings" because I will be flamed from here to eternity.
In the heirarchy of human need, Air, Water, Sleep, Food and Sex are the top five. A failure of any one of these needs or the ability to satisfy them indicates serious malfunction of the human condition. It is NOT just an issue for men. It is a basic human need. It is built into the system of the human being with the express purpose of continuing the species. It is also true of all other species. Some here recognize the seriousness of Lori's concern and some have issued their own positions which tend to make one think that only men have a sex drive...this is not the case.
Much of what I read here indicated that there have been a significant number of folks on this forum who have experienced "sexual violence" of one sort or another. It would seem to be the case that this can be a major source of the problem as Lori has expressed. Some of you have offered her the suggestion of "counseling" and are concerned for the status of her marriage. Some have offered "alternatives" to the usual "missionary postion" activity...again, good recommendations for considering the needs of both parties. In the end however, this is between LoriH and Chad. I was once informed that "a piece of advice is like a rectum...everybody has one".
Some have given recommendations for the "dryness problem" which are all the result of their own attempts at a solution and which appear to work.
One of the most compelling things in this whole string is the fear and the disdain for the physician's who have told some women that this "is mental" and of course, they must all be nutcases to suggest such a preposterous thing, but in the great scheme of things one consideration seems to be missing.
In "regular medicine" when a man has a problem with ED, the first thing to do is find out if "everything works as advertised". This is done quite easily with the POSTAGE STAMP test. Fixing a string of stamps around the necessary area just prior to sleep will tell in the morning if things "work as advertised" in that the postage stamp string will be broken due to the overwhelming pressure of the change in physiology of a man during REM sleep when he becomes erect (without even knowing it).
If the stamps are broken in the morning, then there is not a "organic" or physical problem...it is a psychological issue. There are many of them. A "broken tool" for whatever reason will NOT work during sleep. PERIOD. HOWEVER, there is NO POSTAGE STAMP test for a woman. This is unfortunate because knowing that the machine works correctly will help to distinguish a physical problem from a psychological one.
Lori was very open about her feelings of anger *(among others) regarding the rape she endured. She appears to equate that event with the advances of her husband and is now very unhappy. That isn't a physical "broken machine issue". The pain of endometriosis is a "broken machine issue" and that can be part of the problem that can't be easily fixed. Apparently there were other issues of her health that entered here.
What seems to come out though is that a significant number of folks who post here have been taking anti-depressant medications and having less than satisfactory results as well as unsatisfactory results with oral contraceptive medications.
"There is NO SUCH THING as a FREE PILL." My wise uncle told me this. Every pill has risks and benefits. Hopefully the benefits will outweigh the risks. It is clear to me that the risks of many of these medications has outweighed the benefits by a significant proportion and many here are unhappy about that. What were the benefits of taking the pills in the first place? O yes, some call it "CHOICE". Then there is the issue of marriage. Why do we get married?
The same question is true for marriage. What were the "benefits" of marriage in the first place and how have they changed? We change as we get older. We are NOT going to stay young and healthy for ever. All the things we suffer are the sum total of our lives before those problems expressed themselves.
Fortunately, as many of you have pointed out, the best treatment for almost all diseases (a few exceptions do exist) is DIET, DIET, DIET and DIET.
Pills are NOT the answer to human disease unless they do keep you alive longer than you would otherwise live without them...(certain heart pills come to mind here.)
We have all be aculturated to believe that death is no longer inevitable but the failing of some doctor rather than the result of our own actions while in this life. I frankly don't think this is a healthy outlook, but trial lawyers have certainly become very rich pursuing that philosophy. More's the pity.
What I do find is that many of you are willing to offer support and help to a friend in need and that is truly what this should be about.
If in the future, TSHTF as many of us tend to believe, then we won't have to worry about all those pills and the reasons for them. We will die when our bodies break and that will be it. We can go to the spirit world and look back at our lives and hopefully be contented with how we "used our talents".
YMMV
dear Lori. Praying you get it all figured out.
So instead of conquering our household food issues, I cave to her style.
