Okay, so more drama. Not sister this time.
DGD10
So, I pick her up from school as usual yesterday, and she is walking to the car with her arms folded across her chest and her head down. Not the norm. She gets in the car and says "I need to talk about something and it is SICK." Radar is up.
We take my neighbor boy home, so when we get in the house and she tells me that they had a sub at school today. And that in the morning it was raining so they had inside recess. And the kids started playing a game called Scoops. DGD10 was on the computer during "recess" and one girl comes up and smacks her on the rear. DGD asked her why and she said "We are playing Scoops and Kick Ass." DGD started to pay attention and she learned that Scoops and Kick Ass is a "game" that involves kicking or hitting someone in the rear, OR grabbing the boobs of a girl and pushing them up, OR "scooping" a boy's genitalia. Several girls were Scooped, and one boy ended up on the floor with his legs drawn up and groaning.
Now...the worst part is that the sub was sitting at the desk watching this "game" and laughing.
DGD was just shell shocked. We called her mom at work, and she called the principal whose initial response was incredulity. Five other parents called in the next ten minutes. In the meantime, DGD and I worked on writing a statement of what happened and emailed it to my daughter, who had been talking to the principal, and she read it and emailed it to the teacher to let him know what he would be walking in to today.
Okay, so today DGD gets in the car and explodes. The regular teacher is making the entire class write apology letters to the sub for their behavior !!! The sub who, as DGD described it, was "smiling happily" the whole time.
Phone calls back and forth, and in the end we find out that the sub has been fired, not just at this school. DGD has been recognized repeatedly for good behavior throughout the year, and even this sub left notes that she was the best behaved in the class. So, after my daughter persuaded him that punishing the best kid in the class might adversely affect her, he instead asked her to write a paragraph about her summer plans.
Sidebar: DGD had already written an apology to the sub: "I am sorry that my class misbehaved while you were in Room 54 yesterday." She's no dummy !
I know that the school district fired this guy for liability reasons, and that's fine with me. He doesn't belong in a classroom.
My daughter is working on her masters in marriage and family therapy, and is doing her usual amazing job dealing with DGD's emotions and reactions.
I can't believe that he just sat there and laughed while a classroom full of 5th graders attacked each other.