Beekissed said:
Well, this is a long story, and I don't want to bore everyone. I've previously made veiled references to the situation with a "friend" of my DW (a special very few here know the gory details). The situation has been hard for me and my marriage. I'll try not to be too long here.
This person has gone back to school and needed assistance with a subject I came one course short of minoring in when I went to college myself. My DW cautiously queried me if there was *any* way at all I could help, since the degree would help this person make more secure financial life for this person and her family. I've tried to help with coaching/mentoring with more simple things in the past and always felt I was ignored/disregarded. So I put that all aside and decided I would do the best job I could do - it went well, I was able to really help her break through the assignment and understand it.
I've mentioned here before, I am a "closure"-type of guy in conversations. As she was cleaning up her books, getting ready leave, I found myself saying (almost like I was in the room watching me say it).... "I'm really proud of this step you are taking, particulary after the way your life has gone. This is a good step in becoming a role model for your children as God wants us to be. It's hard work, but He rewards us when we do things that please him."
Maybe not the most eloquent "open your heart to the Lord" speech, but she did stop in her tracks and just stare at me. Then she smiled, and said "maybe you're right". My reply was "I know I am".
Would have never happened if I hadn't softened my heart. And then this afternoon, my mom tells me I can have my late Grandma's hand-written recipe collection....
