Wannabefree...guess what I got in the mail today!?!?!?!?

[pinkfox]

im with justusnak on this one WBF, only YOU know if you can not only financnially but emotionally, physically and mentally tak on 3 kids soon to be entering their pre-teen years from a rough background.

and remmeber, it is ok to say no...you need to not only do whats good for the kids...but whats best for you and your family too. *hugs*

 

[Wannabefree]

I know nothing about the kids other than ages and genders I DON'T have any money. I don't even know what it would cost to get them...but I don't have the money either way So....I guess it's kinda moot. I WOULD help family, but I just can't financially anyway. I think my other cousin wants to pay for it though I just don't know. I know I don't like kids right now, because the ones I have are nuts I don't know if I could handle 3 more nuts I do have room, because there is only one boy who would get the spare room, and DD would have to share a bedroom with the other two. They'd get the master bedroom, and DH and I owuld have to be demoted to a smaller room, but I'm actually okay with that. DD wouldn't be...but uh..well she wouldn't be okay with anything. She's gonna throw a fit if we EVEN TALK about doing this, but unfortunately for her, it is not her decision to make, though her feelings would be considered. Eh...I've already "ruined her life" so what's a bit more? This is just really weird.

 

[justusnak]

If the other cousin is willing to pay for this transfer of kids, why then cant they take the kids? I am sure there would be "help" from the state..medical, food stamps, clothing allowances....etc. Its YOU I am worried about. 3 more kiddo's, is a big undertaking, and like you said, you know nothing about them...how or WOULD they "fit in" Adjust?

 

[Wannabefree]

If the other cousin is willing to pay for this transfer of kids, why then cant they take the kids? I am sure there would be "help" from the state..medical, food stamps, clothing allowances....etc. Its YOU I am worried about. 3 more kiddo's, is a big undertaking, and like you said, you know nothing about them...how or WOULD they "fit in" Adjust?

My other cousin who wants to pay...is WAY too busy with her salon and her 3 year old. She hardly sees the kid she has as is and doesn't want to take on 3 more. I can't blame her in her situation really I think they'd love being here on the little farmlette, and I could teach them a few things, and have lots of little helpers, at least at first, until they get tired of helping It is a MASSIVE undertaking! They being fosters would be required to go to public school, and with all my cousins on this particular side of the family that WANT these kids back HERE...I'd have plenty of babysitters at varying times. The thing about this side of the family...we're just all very close knit, and I think the kids would do vey well here. I just don't know if it's right for us though. I don't work outside the home much, so I'm the obvious choice I suppose...most of the others have 9-5's or are much too old to take on another batch of younguns. I can't believe I am even defending this logic though....it's just a crazy sad situation, and I would love to have the kids here...but.....well it's a bunch of crazy kids

 

[valmom]

Oh, boy- what a decision to make. for what ever you decide.

 

[Wannabefree]

thanks Valmom

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

I'm sorry for those kids, but dang, wouldn't have peeing on a stick been easier?

Really wasn't trying to jinx you. Hope it all works out, no matter which way you decide to go.

 

[Wannabefree]

QA this is ALL your fault!!! YES peeing on a stick woulda been LOADS easier!!! At least THEN I would have had 9 months to emotionally prepare, right?

 

[abifae]

I do have room, because there is only one boy who would get the spare room, and DD would have to share a bedroom with the other two. They'd get the master bedroom, and DH and I owuld have to be demoted to a smaller room, but I'm actually okay with that.

I think anyone would throw a fit at suddenly sharing a room with two other kids, especially at that age lol.

I wouldn't do it. But that's just me. Your only information, if I'm right, is from a drug addict saying "can I guilt trip you through family ties to take my kids?"

And trusting another family member to pay is just begging for funds to disappear and you're sunk.



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[Wannabefree]

I do have room, because there is only one boy who would get the spare room, and DD would have to share a bedroom with the other two. They'd get the master bedroom, and DH and I owuld have to be demoted to a smaller room, but I'm actually okay with that.

I think anyone would throw a fit at suddenly sharing a room with two other kids, especially at that age lol.

I wouldn't do it. But that's just me. Your only information, if I'm right, is from a drug addict saying "can I guilt trip you through family ties to take my kids?"

And trusting another family member to pay is just begging for funds to disappear and you're sunk.



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Yeah it'll be war for a minute IF we do this...with DD, but she threw a fit over us just talking about it when we were trying to get my niece So I have prior experience here

The drug addict will never get the kids back. I KNOW this, again, from experience. This would be a "until they're 18" kind of deal, no doubts.

The other family member, has the money, and is offering it up. I trust her on that. She'd take them herself if she were in a better position.

That is NOT to say we are doing this...just to clarify a bit.