I am not a person who airs my dirty laundry so to speak. I feel that I can trust all of you here and I don't know where else to turn. I have a problem with my sister and think that maybe you can help me.
My sister is 11 months younger than me. She is highly intelligent, kind, generous to a fault and the most loving person I know. She doesn't judge others and feels you pain when you are having a bad day.
I love my sister dearly. She has two little girls ages 12 and 2. The girls are the same as her. Nice, friendly, outgoing and forgiving. They are the sweetness in my day.
Now here is my big problem. I had to take my sisters children away from her last Thursday.
My sister is a very messy person. We all can be messy but she is extremely messy. To the point that you can't walk on her floors without tripping and the garbage piles up in the house. Literally piles up. I go clean the house and it just gets dirty again almost immediately. My sister doesn't feed her kids, she doesn't cook for them or bring anything home for them to eat. She doesn't notice them unless they are doing something cute. She doesn't answer to "mommy" when she is called and just seems uninterested in what is going on around her. My sister can sit on the computer, watch tv and talk on the phone for hours but she has absolutely no time for her children. This isn't even the reason I took the girls.
A couple of weeks ago I noticed the smallest one scratching her head and told my sister that the baby has lice. She didn't do anything about it. A week later I cleaned the baby's head and decided that since my sister probably wouldn't wash bedding and such I would do it for her. I went over to her house and found the most ungodly conditions there. I really just meant to grab the bedding and take it and wash it for her while she was at work. When I walked into the house the oven door was wide open and I found that she didn't have heat. It's been below zero for weeks now and it was really cold in the house.
Looking around there was the usual mess but now there were big piles of dog feces and dog vomit everywhere. It was on top of clothing piled in the laundry room, in every corner of the house and even in the bedrooms. She has four dogs and had been keeping them inside due to the weather for the past two months. My sister never bothered to clean up the feces! There were hundreds of piles of dog doo-doo in every single room of the house. I forgot the bedding, took the children and advised her that she isn't getting them back until the mess is cleaned up and she has heat.
It's been a week and my sister hasn't given me any sign that she is working on the house or heat. She has money, that isn't the problem. I really think she doesn't care.
My question is, what would you do knowing that she loves her kids but doesn't take care of them. I don't want to raise another family and I worry about the girls health.
P.S. This isn't helping my ss lifestyle, it has cost me twice as much grocery and supply money in the week I have had the girls. But I can say that the 12 year old has been doing half of my share of the chores and that is a nice bonus.
My sister is 11 months younger than me. She is highly intelligent, kind, generous to a fault and the most loving person I know. She doesn't judge others and feels you pain when you are having a bad day.
I love my sister dearly. She has two little girls ages 12 and 2. The girls are the same as her. Nice, friendly, outgoing and forgiving. They are the sweetness in my day.
Now here is my big problem. I had to take my sisters children away from her last Thursday.
My sister is a very messy person. We all can be messy but she is extremely messy. To the point that you can't walk on her floors without tripping and the garbage piles up in the house. Literally piles up. I go clean the house and it just gets dirty again almost immediately. My sister doesn't feed her kids, she doesn't cook for them or bring anything home for them to eat. She doesn't notice them unless they are doing something cute. She doesn't answer to "mommy" when she is called and just seems uninterested in what is going on around her. My sister can sit on the computer, watch tv and talk on the phone for hours but she has absolutely no time for her children. This isn't even the reason I took the girls.
A couple of weeks ago I noticed the smallest one scratching her head and told my sister that the baby has lice. She didn't do anything about it. A week later I cleaned the baby's head and decided that since my sister probably wouldn't wash bedding and such I would do it for her. I went over to her house and found the most ungodly conditions there. I really just meant to grab the bedding and take it and wash it for her while she was at work. When I walked into the house the oven door was wide open and I found that she didn't have heat. It's been below zero for weeks now and it was really cold in the house.
Looking around there was the usual mess but now there were big piles of dog feces and dog vomit everywhere. It was on top of clothing piled in the laundry room, in every corner of the house and even in the bedrooms. She has four dogs and had been keeping them inside due to the weather for the past two months. My sister never bothered to clean up the feces! There were hundreds of piles of dog doo-doo in every single room of the house. I forgot the bedding, took the children and advised her that she isn't getting them back until the mess is cleaned up and she has heat.
It's been a week and my sister hasn't given me any sign that she is working on the house or heat. She has money, that isn't the problem. I really think she doesn't care.
My question is, what would you do knowing that she loves her kids but doesn't take care of them. I don't want to raise another family and I worry about the girls health.
P.S. This isn't helping my ss lifestyle, it has cost me twice as much grocery and supply money in the week I have had the girls. But I can say that the 12 year old has been doing half of my share of the chores and that is a nice bonus.