- Jul 19, 2008
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- Pacific NW
Im not sure how to untrain myself.patandchickens said:It sure does sound that way, doesn't it So, therein lies the way out, too, if you want.
Since were married his lack of financial planning does affect me. For example if he doesnt pay his auto insurance then gets in a wreck my wages can be garnished, our house could be sold out from under us to pay off whatever damaged is caused.It seems to me, if I may be so bold, that you are sticking your nose in where it has no business being, especially since you do not like the effects of it being there
I agree with most of what you wrote but what he does affects me greatly. There is no His credit card. It just has name on it. I dont want our credit rating ruined. He can max the card out then run off and join the circus or heaven forbid, die and Ill have to pay it off.
I dont know. If I have the money and dont pay the bill when we get a late notice because that was his bill to pay I feel like Im playing games.Letting cable or phone get shut of is not a game (unless you intend it as such), it is just a natural consequence of not paying the bills and if *you* are willing to live without the cable or phone then it's not your problem.
So true. Men can be difficult. My sister-in-law spends like crazy but my brother has a much easier time keeping her in line. My brother states his case and if sister-in-law doesnt agree he calls her dad who will buy it for her.But honest, you can't MAKE a husband be different than he wants to be, and my observation is that generally the more we try to make someone be the way we thing they oughta, the more they pull harder in the opposite direction. Men especially