Pink Fox: its Raining...IN MY HOUSE! :/

[pinkfox]

might have a buyer for the shop stuff as one big lot. please keep those fingers crossed for us, it would be nice to have that phase of life gone so dad can put the money back towards the debts, and mum can move past it...shes still sad we couldnt make it work

 

[pinkfox]

prayers, hopes, vibes, whatever you have to offer would be greatly aprecieated today.

dad has been doing so well but this morning he woke up with some abdominal pain and then vomited blood...enough to be a serious worry. i called his surgeon and she said ER so thats where we spent the morning...
his blood work, temp and blood pressure are all spectacularly NORMAL!

he has been re-admitted and is back under his surgeouns care...
the bad news is hes in overnight at minimum and back on an iv (no fluids by mouth today)...
the GOOD news is the surgeon is 98% certain its a minor bleed at a suture site, probably brought on by moving funnin in the nighth and tugging on something...he has been sleeping heavier since the surgery (in a good healing way) but heavy sleepng and tossing and turning mean less protection for vunerable stitches and she things hes probably turned early this morning and tugged on the still vunerable stitches/healing sites and got himself a little tear.

they will be monitoring him today, will take more blood this evening and then again in the morning.
right now their monitoring white blood count for indication of infection (no indication currently)
and red blood cells to make sure hes not bleeding further into the intestines.

he hasnt had any further blood vomiting since the bout that prompted ER this morning, and his blood count thus far is good so the surgeon thinks its minor and will probably re-seal itself within a few hours.

if that changes though theyll be sending him down for an endoscopy to see if the can find the bleed and seal it up.

WORST case senario is he'll have to go bac under the knife to have it repaired but were hoping (and from what the surgeon has said) thats not going to be the case.


so any prayers (doesnt matter which god you talk to) hopes, well wishes ect would be greatly apreciated.

i was however reminded of something i find very peculiar...
i have an anxiety/panic disorder...
and yet when an emergency happens i seem to enter this suer calm logical state..

its odd...
i can be n walmart minding my own buisness and have seemingly entire random panic attacks...
but put me in a potentially terrifying positon and i turn into this logically thinking calm collected person...

dad called me up this morning to show me the blood...
most peoples reaction woudl be "eww" followed by "oh god"
mine was "ok im going to go get dressed" he got dressed while i then calmly called the surgeons office, talked to her nurse and then packed him up and off to the ER...
inside i know i was worried...i mean vomiting blood is never what one would call "normal" but i dont think i could have paniked if id tried.
i dont know if this is a good or bad thing lol.

but yeah hes in a room, under good care (his surgeon is one of the top in the country!) and will hopefully be back to normal and home tomorrow afternoon.

 

[i_am2bz]

Prayers said for your dad's recovery, pinkfox.

Funny, I get in the "calm zone" during emergencies, too...when my mom was diagnosed with cancer, I flew home to do the grocery shopping, cook dinner, run errands, etc. for my dad & sis...I was all of 24 or so at the time.

 

[Bubblingbrooks]

A little insight into the panic issue.
Panic attacks are generally caused by insufficient adrenalin and very high cortisol.
In a huge stress moment, you can get just enough cortisol and adrenalin to make it through the moment.
The problem with that, is the amount of further damage that occurs to the adrenals.
As the years wear on, there tends to come a point at which they poop out fully, and everything can fall apart.

Once I learned all that stuff, and started taking proper adrenal support, the panic attacks left, never to come back. And over time, all the other issues that occur due to the deficiencies, have been healing.

Praying for your dad.

 

[valmom]

Healing thoughts to your dad! And the calm in an emergency is a great trait- much more effective than falling apart and not being useful to anyone! Good for you.

 

[pinkfox]

thanks guys...

we whent to see him again tonight and he seems to be doing fine.
says what little pain there was is now less...the sick feeling has also subsided though that could be because of the anti nausea meds he got this morning.
hes on nothing by mouth tonight to give his innards a rest and theyll probably try him on clear liquids tomorrow morning and see what the reaction is.

surgeon is now thinking given all his blood results so far and the fact that other than some tenderness and nausea that it could very well be a small bleeding ulcer thats formed at the suture site due to a little low dose acid reflux, so they are treating with a proton pump inhibitor thats stronger than the one they sent him home with and they are also treatng him for an ulcer...it wont hurt if the issue is simply a tear at a site, but if it is an ulcer itll help it calm down and heal.

under drs "ok" he added a little salt pepper and curry powder to his beef broth yesterday...and now shes thinking the curry powder might have been a little too much too soon (her "little" is a pinch, dads "little" is often close to a teaspoon...so...) and that hell have to go extreemly easy on the spices untill hes fully healed.
if id have known he put curry powder in there i would have beaten him, i told him no spice beyond a little pepper for 2 weeks as spices can cause reflux, and some people dont tolerate spices well after gastric bypass...

so the surgeon is fairly certain its something that with a little gentleness over the next week or so should heal no problem...
and dads a little frustrated and upset but i think he nows deep down that he was getting a little cocky...i cant watch him 24/7 and mum said hes been taking in fluids a little faster and "doctoring his broth" which under most circumstances is fine, i added garlic powder salt and pepper to all my broth at that stage...but i think the curry powder was just a tad too much too soon.

so if yall could keep those well wishes comming, it kind of set in this evening once we got home as a drain almost, i just feel a little worried and tired right now, not sleepy tired...just sucked dry.
i think ill feel better when hes home and feeling good again. i know hes in good hands at the hospital, but still...


in other news, got all my finalization packet in the mail today, got most of it filled out, got to call her in the morning and see if she needs any additional proof of income, bank statments ect...and then thatll get sent off and hopefully get to closing.

im thinking given the situation with the critters and the situation here at home ill probbaly fly out, rent a car and stay in a motel for the night before closing then stay on a cheap air matress at the house for a few days, get a quick and easy fence up and the locks changed and then come home and wait a couple of weeks before officially moving, itll give me an extra paycheck and dad will be a month out of surgery at that point and be pretty much out of the wtf woods. (most issues occure in the first 2-3 weeks)
its almost $500 i dont realy have, but itll save me the worries with the animals, and itll give me a little more time for a tag sale ect...

but yeah thats the update...probably going to head to bed soon and hope i can sleep....

 

[pinkfox]

*grumble grumble cry*

so just talked to the loan prossor...
looks like im not oging to be buying a house...not even remotly at this rate.

the offer on the hosue is contingent on the seller paying the closing costs pretty much 90% of the closing costs, which iw as told by the initial mortgage broker and my agent that this wouldnt be a problem, the seller was absolulty 100% ok with this ect...
my total closing costs are about $4500 with the ownpayment included in that figure

now the processor (next step up from the broker) is saying her records are showing that the seller can only contribute up ot $800 towards closing costs...

orgionally i would have to find about $1900...ouch but doable...
NOW however if this is correct and the seller can only contribute up to $800 i will have to find about $3700, thats an additional 2 months worth of pay for me, AND then at least another 2 months before i could afford to actually move as that would whipe out my account completly.

parents are willing to give me a little, but they dont have $2000 to hand me, and because closing costs can "change" at closing the mortgage company is requesting "gift funds" IN my account of a minimum of $3000 ontop of my own money already in there.

now firstly if id have known the seller could only contribute 3% (there abouts, i wouldnt have included it in my offer, i would have taken the closing costs OFF the offer completly and offered lower and tried to get a loan to cover the closing costs...my offer was a little higher so that the seller would pay all closing.
secondly, if id have known the seller could only contribute 3% i might not be able to get the extra for closing and i wouldnt have demned well looked into buying a house.

im VERY upset right now...not even just a little upset...but VERY upset about this.
so shes double checking and will let me know whats going on wiht the downpayment trouble...
if we cant change this and or get this sorted i will NOT be closing on this house. im not sure if ill get my earnest money back.
i feel terrible for my agent whos been working her butt off, terrible for the seller who was willing to work with me on the purchase price...
but more so im selfish and im realy angry and upset...
i told the origional broker i was plannign to have seller pay all closing costs and he didnt mention that might be an issue...
if id have known this i wouldnt have paid the $200 to have the inspection done either!

this was my chance to move forward and start my own life...

it means ill now have to wait untill late spring at the earliest before i can start this journey again... in the mean time ill continue to pay rent to my parent, and bills on a home thats not mine, in an area i hate...

but yeah now i wait for her to get back to me...
mabe she can come up with some idea on how to do this...mabe i can re-negotiate the offer and somehow otherwise roll the closing costs into the loan...
i just dont know...

*cries*

 

[dragonlaurel]

Wish I could help. I hope something comes through soon about this.

 

[abifae]

That's a SMALL FREAKING DETAIL to leave out.

 

[pinkfox]

im going be filing a formal comlaint with wells fargo about it.

the good news is my agent thinks she knows of a local bank that would work with me so im gong to play it by ear right now.

in other news, dad was fine yesterday afternoon and all this morning, they gave him broth and water this monring and he was fine then about 10 mins ago he had another blood vomiting episode. im worried...alot. he was doing aboslutly fine, he had nothign by mouth yesterday, quiet night, was perfectly ok this morning, had fluids by mouth and off the drip this morning and now another episode, its not even like it was imediatly after drinking anything, he had his broth this morning and has been simply sipping water. thankfully dr was on the floor when it happens saw what happend and has taken it for alalyzation...
right now they realy want to avoid an endoscopy because inflating the pouch to see whats going in could cause other small tears that could cause other issues. and a cat scane wouldnt show anything because they belive its internal firslty and secondly they cant get enough contrast in there at this point...even 10 months out i cant drin 24floz in one sitting.

an endoscopy is probably the next step though, as of this morning they were pretty certain it was a small tear, but now...who knows.

the thing is we were there all morning, left just after i posted here, he looked fine, he was laughing joking, feeling good, he said he felt fine and wanted to come home...
we left and are about 15 mins from the hospital, no sooner did we pull in the driveway he called saying hed had another episode.

i just....
ugh.

he said hell call us if the drs have any news and were going to head back up there this evening about 5ish just came home for lunch and make a quick grocery run.
im at a loss, all my reaserch is saying tear or ulcer, seems too soon for an ulcer
but this whole thing makes no sense, he has an "episode" then hes fine...

yesterdays episode was on a completly empty stomach...todays episode was a few hours after broth and hes been sipping water...

so hes back on the iv, and back on no fluids by mouth. ive got a feeling hell be in for a few more days minimum. *ugh*
i realy thought hed be home today, he was doing soo well!