That's very true! I think many of the young people on this forum are quite mature for their ages. That can make difference if your friends are not.Farmfresh said:
Went out with SO, my brother, and a friend last night for a nice dinner. I mean REALLY nice. SO wanted to take me out somewhere great. The entre was super expensive, and while it was good, I really don't think it was worth it. I don't think I'm gonna go back there. I'd prefer to spend the money on something that will make me lastingly happy, like mason jars, lol. Does that make me weird? At the very least, I feel like all that $$$ I could make myself several meals of the same caliber, same ingredients. And I like, cooking, so why not? Ooooh, I know! Next time I'll just tell him, let me cook it, and use the money saved to hire someone to do all the dishes for me! 
Now THAT would be a birthday gift. By the way, I was looking at a couple things, and it occurs to me that a fair number of people have been banned... what did they do? I don't want to accidentally do something and get banned... I would be so sad without this forum. And I know sometimes I totally mince my words on the net and end up implying something I don't mean to, just because you can't tell tone/body language online. Anyone have tips, (other than keeping my dang mouth shut!) to keep me from getting in trouble? I know it's for the best, but it is still sad. I was quite excited about it. Oh well, another year I'll do it.Hi, and welcome to the forum. OK, I know you've been here for awhile now, but I have just read your journal. I'm late; sorryToLiveToLaugh said:
. Several things - First, you are very fortunate to know what you want so early in life. I grew up, not in the country, but outside a small town. It was peaceful, my mother had a huge (flower and herb) garden, we had dogs. When I was 21 I moved to Germany to teach English, and found my husband - in the middle of a huge city! Love blinded me to the fact that I don't really like cities. It took years to even convince him that a house, instead of an apartment, might be nice. Now we live in the country, but not on a farm - that won't ever happen. Second, I understand those "we're so sorry for you" looks. Several years ago my DH went through 10 months of dealing with 3 different types of cancer. It wasn't long before people were looking at me with "that" look, patting me on the arm, and saying "and how are YOU doing with all this?" 
What can you say? "Thank you, I'm fine" really doesn't work. And "It sucks, thanks all the same" isn't really my style. I finally started saying "I'm fine, for the moment. When he has finished all his treatments I have scheduled my nervous breakdown for the week after. But for now, I'm fine." And then I would smile sweetly. They usually left me alone after that. And third, and last, your name always makes me think of the grand house (and museum) south of San Francisco called Filoli - the name comes from the the first letters of the original owner's motto: "Fight for a just cause; Love your fellow man; Live a good life." I'm glad you got through well anyway, and I'm praying your husband did as well. And at least you're in Oregon (I'm assuming that's what your name means) so even a house in town has lots of green around it. Doesn't help with having goats or anything, but it's something.ORChick said:Hi, and welcome to the forum. OK, I know you've been here for awhile now, but I have just read your journal. I'm late; sorry
And thanks for the welcome. Even if I've been here a while, it's nice to know I'm welcome What sort of museum is that, btw?Yes, thank you, we are both fine. His tests continue to come back negative. And I, instead of the "planned for" nervous breakdown, got chickens!ToLiveToLaugh said:I'm glad you got through well anyway, and I'm praying your husband did as well. And at least you're in Oregon (I'm assuming that's what your name means) so even a house in town has lots of green around it. Doesn't help with having goats or anything, but it's something.ORChick said:Hi, and welcome to the forum. OK, I know you've been here for awhile now, but I have just read your journal. I'm late; sorry
A much, much better idea. I am indeed in Oregon; Eugene is our "big city" for shopping, when what we need can't be found in Roseburg. Filoli is a grand house, with beautiful gardens south of San Francisco, near where we used to live. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FiloliNice. My parents are just outside of Eugene, and my Aunt is in Roseburg. I went to high school in Eugene.ORChick said:Yes, thank you, we are both fine. His tests continue to come back negative. And I, instead of the "planned for" nervous breakdown, got chickens!
Eugene's my big city for shopping too. And chickens are a much better idea until you get the addiction. Then you're doomed. I think most people on here are already doomed. 
Isn't that often the way? I grew up on the Monterey Peninsula, and was 20 before I did the "Path of History" in Monterey - shamed into it by a boyfriendmurphysranch said:
. For those outside California I should add that Monterey was at one time the capital of California, and one of the most important towns, and has many historical buildings from when California was still part of Mexico. Quite apart from its connection with John Steinbeck. Sorry, TLTLTL, I'll give you back your journal now 
I don't like giagantic chunks of anything in my salsa. (I'm talking huge here people. Like, bigger than the chip). So that was a bit disappointing, but it was a nice treat anyway. 
