- Mar 16, 2021
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That is one thing that I did/do well at.I'm great with academics, but struggling with teaching the youngerone life skills.
Do you have tips or inspiration?
The kids when they were little did everything with me. So they cooked with me, and fixed fence with me, helped paint the barn, change the water filter, etc.
Tiny kids can hand you stuff, and mix or what have you.
By age 6 they would make homemade biscuits, scrambled eggs, mac and cheese.... the basics.
And by 6 they could forage mushrooms by themselves, and were assigned an animal and all involved chores.
My 13 year old made ribs this Saturday for me, and last week repaired the washing machine. For the washing machine I told him to look up you tube videos and handed him the part. He had to take off the back, top, and front (including the front loader door and gasket). At one point he came to me to ask for pointers, and then I asked the 15 year old to help him for 10 minutes or so, before youngest was able to go back to doing it on his own.
With the ribs this Saturday... they were perfect... but he didn't make any sides... I guess I have to work on that next, "a complete meal."
When you do a few projects together (cooking, or repair work, or foraging, whatever), at first you go over everything step by step. You explain EVERYTHING.
Like, for mushrooms, we need to use a book to figure out what we have. We have to make a spore print if we aren't sure. We have to find out any poisonous look-alikes. And go through all steps and all resources that you use, and how they can use them. And go over the "what we do if it all goes wrong".
I remember when kid#3 got his first knife, we went over and reviewed all safety stuff. And yep, he cut himself anyway. But, it was during office hours so it didn't cost much to take him in and get stitches.
I think it is so important to give your kids opportunities to fail, and to succeed. Figuring out how to deal with failure is a huge life skill, and helps to teach how to find a work around, how to think creatively, and how to see failure as an opportunity to try something different, not a reason to despair.