I could use some help diffusing a situation with one of my neighbors......
My closest neighbor (about 1/4 mile away) is an older married gentleman. He has been unbelievably helpful to me, teaching me about tractors & farming and takes care of my chickens when I have to go away for a few days. I like his wife, she is a good hearted person, but we have nothing in common and so don't spend much time together.
My fiance and I broke up almost a year ago now and since then this neighbor has been making advances. At first I though he was joking around but the past month or two, I can tell he is not.
He's making comments about 'sneaking through the trees to come visit me some night" and wants a hug when he stops by.
I respond to this stuff with "You couldn't do that to your wife, she's a sweetie & she loves you." and "Isn't it a little selfish to think you deserve two women, you've got a perfectly good wife to chase around" and "I don't think it's right to mess around with married men."
Today he shows up with a box of candy. I said thanks, but you shouldn't do that.....
I'll be honest, I am absolutely furious at this point, what makes him think I'd be ok with this? I'm not a hooker and it's completely against my principles to do something like that.
My city friends would advise me to just rip him a new one, but I think you country/SS people know how important it is to be on good terms with your neighbors, especially if you live alone in the middle of nowhere. I think deep down he is a good person despite this nonsense but I need a way to make this stop while still remaining friendly. It's getting to the point where I don't want to even answer the door anymore. What can I do?
My closest neighbor (about 1/4 mile away) is an older married gentleman. He has been unbelievably helpful to me, teaching me about tractors & farming and takes care of my chickens when I have to go away for a few days. I like his wife, she is a good hearted person, but we have nothing in common and so don't spend much time together.
My fiance and I broke up almost a year ago now and since then this neighbor has been making advances. At first I though he was joking around but the past month or two, I can tell he is not.
He's making comments about 'sneaking through the trees to come visit me some night" and wants a hug when he stops by.
I respond to this stuff with "You couldn't do that to your wife, she's a sweetie & she loves you." and "Isn't it a little selfish to think you deserve two women, you've got a perfectly good wife to chase around" and "I don't think it's right to mess around with married men."
Today he shows up with a box of candy. I said thanks, but you shouldn't do that.....
I'll be honest, I am absolutely furious at this point, what makes him think I'd be ok with this? I'm not a hooker and it's completely against my principles to do something like that.
My city friends would advise me to just rip him a new one, but I think you country/SS people know how important it is to be on good terms with your neighbors, especially if you live alone in the middle of nowhere. I think deep down he is a good person despite this nonsense but I need a way to make this stop while still remaining friendly. It's getting to the point where I don't want to even answer the door anymore. What can I do?