What if DH/DW Couldn't?

[FarmerJamie]

Wow, almost a year since anyone updated this thread. Today is hard. Stuff I wanted to get done before the fair trip didn't get done. Stuff trying to get done weekly is way behind. "We can do it over the weekend". Wife is still crashed in bed this afternoon, just spent a futile hour in the kitchen, laundry is staring at me, leftover onions need dehydrating, the frustration is boiling inside me. Feels like work, take one day off, take two days to catch up.

@tortoise how do you do it all?

Thanks for the venue to rant.

 

[baymule]

Wow, almost a year since anyone updated this thread. Today is hard. Stuff I wanted to get done before the fair trip didn't get done. Stuff trying to get done weekly is way behind. "We can do it over the weekend". Wife is still crashed in bed this afternoon, just spent a futile hour in the kitchen, laundry is staring at me, leftover onions need dehydrating, the frustration is boiling inside me. Feels like work, take one day off, take two days to catch up.

@tortoise how do you do it all?

Thanks for the venue to rant.

Ok, so you do it all…… what if it were reversed? How do you think you would handle that? Be glad you are on your feet. Time to accept the fact that if you don’t do it, it doesn’t get done. Take a deep breath. Then accept the fact that you are not Superman and sometimes there will be things left undone. Take another deep breath.

Now take 5 minutes to thank God for every thing you can think of. Just 5 minutes giving thanks for positive and happy things in your life. It will make you feel better.

 

[baymule]

Was thinking of this thread today. Third day in a row the wife has been down for the count.
Trying to mentally accept the challenges.
It will be okay

You can do it. Believe me, you can do it and come the end of the day, be happy with yourself for what you have achieved. Fix something for you and your wife to eat or go get take out. While out, buy a flower bouquet. Put in a vase or jar, anything. Attach a note telling her how much you love her and if she’s down, take supper to her and y’all enjoy it together. Give her the flowers and note. It will mean the world to her and you too. Life’s precious moments sometimes need a little help to make them happen.

 

[frustratedearthmother]

DH made the mistake of asking me if there was anything he could do to help with dinner, lol. He's in the kitchen and I'm on the couch!

It's not that bad for him. I got the broccoli steaming and have the cod in the oven. I have him crushing some ritz crackers for a topping for the fish.

He CAN do this - he just doesn't think he can!

 

[Medicine Woman]

When DH and I first got together we each had farms we tended to separately. Either of us were able to do it all with no assistance from the other if necessary. He has done both of our chores when I had pneumonia and I have done it when he had an illness but since Ida and both of us having a couple of surgeries and serious diagnosis we have downsized although I have plans of returning home and increasing my previous farming activities. It’s hard to say which of us will go first but I think I can handle everything if my barn is at least fixed back up to it precious glory and my new set up is done up to the point where things can be done conveniently. No more rabbits in cages. I want colony rabbits.

 

[frustratedearthmother]

Beginning to think I bit off more than I can chew with this place.

Nah - you got this! It's just a lot of things hitting you at once.

Like the tower planter above!

Or, would she consider perhaps a "raised bed" of planters on a shelf?

Porch rails?

Or something like this:

Hope you can find a solution!

 

[tortoise]

I would keep her garden very close to the house. On a deck/porch. Or indoors. Getting to the garden was always the hardest part for me. After that, tolerating the weather/sunlight was a challenge.

 

[FarmerJamie]

Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. Added to the list

As I was out and about, started looking at options

 

[tortoise]

That's a hard conversation @murphysranch . I'm proud of you for speaking up.

 

[Mini Horses]

@murphysranch I'm just preaching the need to look out for "you"...we just never know the day we are a single again. Then, life MUST go on for you. Look hard at where you live, any adjustments to help move about and look after you, your needs.

This farm and these animals are my thing, so I work at keeping it going. Help would be fantastic & sometimes I get it....mostly not. I always have an "out" -- sell! Until then, nope I just keep at it. When my kids ask "why?", it's so you don't have to take care of me. I'm very independent. Very self providing. My attitude is that I can, & will, provide, care for & defend myself. Ageing isn't for the faint of heart.

Stay active, stay healthy!!

Lunch is over. Need to go stretch and nail to posts. Just rolled out and stood up 175' of goat fence. Temp tied to posts until I get there to stretch and finish. My tractor awaits garden work next.